Some people approach a poor relationship with his or her superiors by making the best of it. After all, it’s a paycheck, right? But what if you had the ability to skillfully change this poor relationship for the better. Read on to learn more.
Successfully managing your behavior is the best way to genuinely turn a relationship around vs. trying to change the other person. What does your boss likely have a lot of. You guessed it, problems! Be a problem solver and he or she will be thankful. Though don’t look for a pat on the back. Just be genuine in your approach to helping out, i.e., not hoping for anything in return. And remember, if you’re not part of the solution, you’re part of the problem. Always aim to bring a problem to your boss with at least one good idea on how to manage or change the issue at hand. Successful leaders are excellent problem solvers.
When your idea to solve a problem doesn’t pan out? Always hold yourself accountable. If you fail demonstrate your ability to show that you learn from mistakes by listing what went wrong and how you will prevent it from happening again. Being accountable means never making excuses. They make you look bad and nobody has time to listen to you complain. When your idea fails or another negative issue arises, never let your emotions get the best of you. In all of life’s situations it’s best to remain calm, cool and collective. Your boss will take notice when you can hold your own during good and bad times.
While you’re lending a helping hand to your boss make sure you’re also creating healthy boundaries that demonstrate your assertiveness. Don’t justify, rationalize, or apologize–just set your boundaries calmly, firmly and respectfully.
Remember that you’re helping your boss for the ultimate good of the team. If you have a problem with a particular issue regarding him or her that doesn’t resonate well with you keep your eye on the bigger picture and always strive to make your boss look good. No one has ever made themselves great by putting someone else down. Especially if your boss is doing badly, do what you can to help him or her succeed. When you make them look good, you invest in a critical relationship and make yourself look even better in the process.
In order to achieve the aforementioned you must be a consistently positive force. Create or work to improve this mindset in your everyday life to seek the positive in every situation. Think, speak, and act with positivity. When everyone else is complaining about an unreasonable restriction, find the work-around. It makes you a valuable team member and sets you apart.
In short, treat your relationship with your boss as you would any other important relationship in your life. Invest time, energy, and creativity into making them happy, show your best self as much as possible, and create the habits in yourself that cultivate trust.
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